You and your ex are at the same party, and he seems to be flirting with you. You see your ex at the grocery store and she shows more interest in you than in the fresh produce. It makes you wander ... "Maybe my ex wants to get back together with me"

These are certainly very common signs of interest. But even if you want to get back together with an ex, don’t jump too fast. It’s best to play a little hard to get. If you jump in and push too hard, you may find your ex pushing you back out of his or her life again. In fact, it may have been playing hard to get that led to the renewed interest.

Usually when you first break up you miss each other, and one or both of you wants to get back together. This is especially true if the relationship lasted a year or longer. You and your ex share a lot of memories. But other emotions come into play as well, including past regrets. If you wondering if you ex wants to get back together, it’s possible your ex is thinking exactly the same thing for the same reasons.

Unless, of course, it’s only a game. They may be trying to get attention, without actually intending to get back together. So, unless your ex seems genuinely interested in spending time with you, be careful. They may just be killing time because there are no other prospects on the horizon. Even worse, they may see this as a way to get revenge.

That’s why you don’t want to jump the gun. Playing a little hard to get may get you back together, and can also save you some heartache if your ex isn’t really serious about getting back together with you.

So, bask in the attention. Enjoy the renewed interest. It may or may not lead to getting back together – but you can still have fun with it. There were a lot of things you liked doing while you were together that weren’t strictly boyfriend-girlfriend activities. Go bicycle riding or walking, or even dancing if that’s what you enjoyed. Even if you don’t get back together with your ex, you’ll enjoy spending the time together.